Dating someone with issues
Having said that, I wrote this article to discuss what you should do when you’re dating someone who not only has certain issues that might need to be worked on, but who also projects their issues onto you, blaming you, and telling you that you’re wrong for certain things—when in a nutshell, you can see right through their mess, and you’re well aware that it’s their issue(s) that they need to fix or at least work on improving.When someone projects their issues, they may do so knowingly or unknowingly believe it or not.Yes, some people actually know what the heck they’re doing, and a smart enough, or should I say, sneaky enough, that they’ll make you think that you’re wrong for whatever it is, when they in fact are well aware what’s really toasting in the oven.It’s so important to recognize ourselves as imperfect, and yet, to still accept and love ourselves with our flaws and all, so that we feel happy in life.
But if you are struggling with any aspect of who a person is, you probably need to look at that as a red flag.
Intensity, being romantic and having the ability to think creatively are all sides to ADHD which can positively add to mutual dating experiences.
With time and patience, other areas which might cause challenges – such as inconsistency or distractibility can be managed, too.
communicate from a distance while observing you astutely to determine if you’re trustworthy or not.
The best thing you can do is understand our boundaries and communicate clearly if you do want a second date, because we’ll never assume that you do.